How to make a man fall in love with me ?! here's a question I hear more often. In fact, as you know my work (as a consultant in sexology) often leads me to talk about relationships and love to hear stories about previous, current, or potential ... Plato lived and / or regrets ... and now I really want from one of these stories, in the words of a young woman who was "rediscovered" in a love triangle and that, in an attempt to explain the relationship that this man was so loved by her and the other.
Here's what he said, "is a bit 'like with vegetables and desserts. The vegetables are good, but the sweet meets other cravings. Here, he does not leave her (the other) because he feels that gives him balance, it supports everything, but then comes to me because I do everything else I meet, the more playful aspect of his life. She is the vegetable, which is not so yummy but eating because he knows that's good, I am the candy that makes you want, but that can not be eaten every day, because otherwise it hurts. "
So what is the solution to make a man fall in love? Being the sweet delicious, what we really do not know to say no, what we do not give up even when you feel you are full, because the sight of him claiming to savor the taste buds?
Or a plate of vegetables, light, healthy, that can be introduced in the daily diet, which certainly did not give the satisfaction of a torte, but that help the body to feel better? Continuing with this metaphor, of course, being the sweet tasty has its advantages: you will be eagerly sought, it will be eaten before his eyes and then savored every last crumb, there stuferà easily eaten the cake from time to so for this you can take the same for a long time (how many of your friends at the restaurant they always take the panna cotta or tiramisu? ...
banner seduzionee many acquaintances, alas, remain so for years?) And yet, the power of sweet lies in its being a whim ... a little more to end the meal. If your man ate it every day, but only once a day, well, I think that within a week not be more satisfying than a plate of vegetables ... probably start to try a new dessert or perhaps a bit 'remove the dessert from his diet, because he feels that his body is not good (blood sugar, cholesterol, dental caries ...) ... and maybe pass the time ... so healthy vegetables ... Now, speaking of vegetables, it must be said that there are only zucchini, chard and boiled spinach. Vegetables can be very tasty if cooked meals with fantasy. It can be combined with lots of flavors and ingredients, meals can be unique or condiment for pasta dishes ... and feeling a bit '... you can too sweet, yeah, you got it right !!! (see the pumpkin) ... You must be wondering where I'm going, that got to do with seduce a man all this talk of "kitchen" ...
As mentioned many times, being the sweet man gives to the instant satisfaction, but they remain so. Unlikely he will engage in a stable relationship with you ... will use when you will be tired of boiled broccoli, but having to choose which diet to follow in the end choose the one that will make you feel better in the long term, but maybe with a treat every intervallandola so much. For you, my dear sweet, you're a spike in blood sugar that satisfies your senses at the time, but then maybe after makes me a stomach ache or under colpa.E let's face it, most often in the role of dessert you there six found myself stuck at the beginning was intriguing, you felt that you have the power to bring out the best in him and then enjoy all the beautiful, but you are only given the last five minutes of a meal than an hour and not i find it hard to believe that after the first time your wish is to become a big plate of parmesan ... or that salad colorful accompanying every meal.
And you, dear vegetable, woman understandable, this patient, more mature than him, how to make a man fall in love but he feels the need to resort to the tiramisu ... or not find you, in spite of yourself in the role of surrogate mother or nurse ?
response, while remaining in the culinary metaphor, is to be your man for a varied, creative, unpredictable, tasty, healthy but tasty, sinful but genuine. You can not just be sweet or just vegetables if you hope your relationship works!
You have to be flexible, interchangeable ... I know that a beautiful pumpkin pie?!? I'm not telling you to change aspects of yourself, just to gratify your man, but to play with your qualities. Do not stare into patterns and images for fear of losing it.
The great thing is that every relationship is also a time of personal growth, is the place where you can discover new sides of you because it is showing them to each other, just as it would a mirror. But it is also the place where keen to experiment, where you can renegotiate the old images and replace them with the person you feel you are or who you want to be today.
Every relationship that works is a constant evolution. The transition from one phase of falling in love, more physical and passionate, to 'love is just that! He says psychology: "the transition from the first phase (falling in love) and the second (love) is dotted with dramatic phases of which up to last do not know the result: the crisis. Crisis, from the greek "separation, choice." Where separate inevitably involves choices, and choose necessarily mean parting with something. By virtue of a relationship that we want, we must separate ourselves from parts of ourselves that we are stuck like glue. "(P. Menghi, 1997)
But since the human being is something really wonderful, this is not a case! The choice of the man who makes you heart beat is much less random than you might think, it's not about luck, chance, your eyes have fallen right on what you needed, the person can respond to your needs, which most often have their own needs of evolution, change, renewal or simply to overcome the limitations imposed by its own or others.
Here, however, that after all the initial excitement, the same man who once seemed the answer to all ills, in one way or another it becomes your eyes as a sadistic tyrant, as the one who leads the game leaving you at the mercy of events and choices. He is your push for change! In this regard psychology says, "to the unconscious attractions generated by our changing needs, we have chosen our opponent, and then we are fighting a battle just to do it in the most competent person to lose." (ibid) and even "members of the couple have two apprentices warriors who had the good fortune to meet and become persecutors of each other. Tyrannical persecutors that we must learn to know perfectly through accurate knowledge of ourselves, to be able to defend ourselves from their deadly attacks. Our tyrant will be the one in the most specific, miserable and painful able to touch our most sensitive spots, teaching us to act consciously instead of reacting blindly. "(Ibid)
And 'then this is the time to figure out who you want to be, first of all, to create a relationship with yourself, to make sure that your life revolves around a man, which is enriched by her presence, sure, but not due to him, his humor, his commitment, his habit of eating vegetables or sweets more often. You have chosen an opponent who knows how to hit your weak points, and have chosen for you because there is a push to overcome those who begin to live as limiting aspects of your self, but the change is always scary, because it is a choice, and as such implies giving and thus losses.
The habit is apparently a safer place, but how many dangers lurk in the stillness? Change aspects of themselves, grow, evolve, it is certainly more risky, but more honest and sincere. And you can not ask for faithfulness and loyalty to him, if you are the first to not grant it to yourself ... you'll get respect if you are not prepared to compromise on his lack of respect. You've chosen him because this is the test that you want to pass, you want to be able to make love for the wonderful woman you are, because you're sweet, but seductive, including but not willing to forgive all, because you are also attentive to your needs, demand respect and your days may continue even if he does not call, the rest of a mature man is that he wants an independent woman. Remember these two foundations to make a man fall in love with you (and tenertelo):
Everyone has the opportunity to choose whether to use their relationship with each other for the evolution of the relationship he has with himself or to consolidate the static. It's up to you to decide whether to stay in the property or in the role of sweet vegetable or rather, how I wish you'd do it with our help, to know the most hidden aspects of yourself, to be able to play with your thousand quality to enjoy, first in person and then to make fool of yourself.
The level of freedom in the choices is directly proportional to the level of awareness reached. Just knowing what you want from a relationship you will know how to set up your relationship with him and avoid being trapped in the role of sweet-lover or vegetarian patient!
